Yahrzeit, Carole Leslie Marcus Abril. October 19, 2002 to October 19, 2021

 From Family Messages:

Yahrzeit, Carole Leslie Marcus Abril

Danny:

Hey guys. as the sun is rising in Miami it sets in Phuket.  Or as some call it, fuck it.  But aside from the wise cracks.  I just wanted to share that i threw my flowers and honored my mom.  As everyone on this thread will be doing in some sort of way, and if I can say something nice, in memory of her, I'd just like to say how lucky I am to have had her strength, courage, and unconditional love for 19 years of my life.  She is definitely who shaped  who I am, and for that my gratitude is unlimited.   Hope everyone well today. And feel free to share.

Danny, posted your video, not sure it will load here. The roses against a rising and/or setting sun are beautiful. 

 

Sam: Amen

Danny: Joy just sent this to me and Josh. Joy, thanks for keeping the memory alive.

Celeste: Loved from Joy and Danny

Joy:  Good morning or good evening… as I get older and watch my kids become adults (some more slowly than others) 21, 18,  16.  I think of you both - having your beautiful amazing mom taken from you.  Everyone’s sadness isn’t comparable to losing a mother so young.  I think of the memories that will be made for me, for my kids as I enter into this next phase of my life. The 19 years that you both have not had to make those memories with your mom. It breaks my heart.  Love to both ❤️

Little Genie: Danny & Joy how eloquently your words are..

My thoughts are also with how her presence made such a enormous impact in our lives.

There are so many virtual quality of her that I miss: her smile, laughter, caring nature.

But of all the them I miss our conversations.... countless hrs sitting with her and just "talking".

Little Genie:   Didn't know this...

The Yahrzeit prayer, which is the Mourner's Kaddish is recited and the special memorial candle is lit after sundown on the evening before the anniversary of the death and burns for a full 24 hours.. 

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July 11 through September 16, 2021

High Holidays. September 6-16, 2021

Rosh Hashanah.  September 6,  2021

Danny's first brisket!

Yom Kippur. September 16, 2021

Between:  Sam picking up Kelly.

August 23, 2021

William. First day of 5th grade at Coral Reef Elementary.

August 19, 2021

Celeste. "After 12 hours face shield N95 off my nose and soul hurts."

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Jump back. Captain Hook and Peter Pan vs Nerf. Miguel and William perhaps two years ago. 2019. Not sure what holiday, thinking Yom Kippur that year. FAMILY! Pre-covid.  I love it!

July 11, 2021

Curt's 70 th

BIG CELEBRATION

Need to add pictures

March 11 to 12, 2021

 Hi Carole, 

Dreamed about you last night, we were together at a place with family, the kids and you and I. How stunning you looked, perhaps 35 to 40 years old. You wore a white tunic, with a hint of flapper era styling. 

Passover is coming up. We totally missed last year. Nada. 

Haven't seen the kids since November, wait, actually saw Danny in January for Will's big 10 birthday. Not Josh then, haven't physically seen him in a year!  Covid has kept us distanced.  

Danny is returning to Miami from Houston. Will be grand having him local again. Josh is soooo busy with his pies, hope he can make for the day Celeste picked  ... too early for Passover, she didn't plan very well, but hey, a get together, maybe even indoors! 

I'm back with you and writing, did very little during the height of Covid, too mentally exhausted.  

Love you dearly.

January 3, 2021..... 71 Birthday

Miracle Sky

Hello my Carole,

You'd be 71-years-old, I am 72.

There are no words when only half remains.

HApPy Birthday Joshua, the BIG 40!

 Hello Carole,

It's a beautiful afternoon for a birthday. Danny, Kris and Josh celebrating Josh's at Monty's in Coconut Grove. 

Josh's Fookem's Fabulous Key Lime Pies going strong. His birthday a grand break for him. Making and selling pies fun, too!

December 26, 2020

Other news: Curt and I went to Larkin Hospital earlier today with hopes of getting a covid vaccine.  Was a no-go, must make appointment on Monday by phone, imagine the hold time, then wait to schedule and get. They are seeing 9 people every 20 minutes. Do the math. Vaccines scarce, not yet at Baptist, the largest chain around, or drug stores.

Untitled. December 2020

 Hi Carole,

A cut and paste of photo from messages worked. December 2020. Can't change size or add caption.

Flowers from Curt's office, his father died age 92.

"Purgatorial isolation” term from NYT editorial.  So expressive. 

CVS won’t have vaccine for old farts like me until March!

Josh purchased new huge mixer

 Hi Carole,

Live!  12:42 PM 

Am on phone with Josh. He is driving back from Dania auction where he purchased an industrial blender for his key limes pies!!!

October 19, 2002 to October 19, 2020

 Hello my dearest Carole, 

It is that time of year again. Eighteen years of missing and longing.

On the upside, Josh and Danny are chugging along, More than chuggging!

Our Danny, Daniel Abril, made it into the Miami Short Film Festival. His short The Incredibly Short Life of Peter Panties is a finalist!

Images of Danny, October 2020. Selfies.

Actual link: <https://www.miamishortfilmfestival.com/2020-program-schedule/within/#elevent>

It is taking place on the Beach next month, and he so wants us there, And I want to be there but am so frightened by Covid that we're passing. And that hurts.  

Being old in the time of Covid is mind shifting. Our adult kids are not affected as we are, and as they cautiously go  about their lives, we are near mute. I am anyway.

For us, it's a different universe. A sad and depressing one.

Sam had, and recovered, says he's 95 % back.

Nurse Celeste had, says she is fine.

Josh and Danny perhaps asymptomatic.

So far Curt and I are seemingly clear. But I am listless 24\7. The term coined "Covid fatigue." A fatigue like a pervasive exhaustion that sucks the energy right out of you.

October 11, 2020

 

There's a meaniness about grief

the way it takes

all that we have ...

Yom Kippur, 2020

Oh Carole, tonight is Yom Kippur and I forgot, that's how crazy things are here with Covid. And politics. 

We remember all who came before and I am missing you terribly. 

Sam and Will are stopping by for pizza tonight, very last minute. 

I just texted Danny. From South Beach he wrote back "we were lucky to have her [you] for the time that we did." Oh, Carole ...now tears welling down my cheeks. 

Celeste could make it Friday, so we will have the kids here then, for pizza outside... Josh, Danny, Sam, William, Celeste and am so hoping Miguel, too. Plus me, Hope, and Curt. We've shrunk! 

A reworking of the High Holidays this Friday with pizza on the patio outside: terrace dining. HA!

And you my dear sister, with me - all of us -  forever.